taken from blablabla blog:
Surprising facts:
Most women are like Macs, and most men are like PCs. Like a Mac, there can be many ‘windows’ open (thoughts and feelings) on the screen of a woman’s mind at any one time. VS the ‘PC’ mindset of a man, who is able to close each ‘window’ on his screen before going on to the next one. (On the other hand, that’s why most women can multitask, and most men can’t!) DON’T say “Just don’t think about it.” (She can’t.) Instead, listen, reassure and encourage her in any action that needs to be taken to resolve her concern.
She wants your empathy
“I don’t want you to fix the problem; I just want you to listen!” Sound familiar? What she FEELS about the problem is actually more important to her than the problem itself. The problem is not the problem; the feeling is the problem. (EXACTLY! lols.) You need to learn to filter out the problem to focus on her feelings. Only after you have acknowledged her feelings will she want to focus on working on a solution.
She needs to feel loved
Most women are insecure about whether their man really loves them. Whenever this insecurity is triggered, she may respond in ways that confuse or dismay you, until she feels reassured. Constant romancing of your woman, whether in little or big ways, will tell her that you desire and care for her, thus lessening her feelings of insecurity.
true aye? - interesting! -
